A few months back, when there was an article on Times Of India about whether men can be raped too, it sparked off a huge debate. Can they?
It did not seem possible to me. I justified my opinion to my male friends with the argument that men have superior physical strength, and in most cases they would be able to overpower the woman attacker.
And then my friend asked me to define what rape is. When I looked it up, this is what I found:
rape 1 (rp)
1. The crime of forcing another person to submit to sex acts, especially sexual intercourse.
2. The act of seizing and carrying off by force; abduction.
3. Abusive or improper treatment; violation: a rape of justice.
tr.v. raped, rap·ing, rapes
1. To force (another person) to submit to sex acts, especially sexual intercourse; commit rape on.
2. To seize and carry off by force.
3. To plunder or pillage.
And then he pointed nowhere is the world ‘physical’ present in the definition of rape! This really frightened me. What if some man came to my house, threatened to kill my loved ones, if I did not submit to him?
What would one do in a situation like that? It affected me in such a profound way that I have never considered myself safe since then.
Even more disturbing is the fact that if rape is in fact committed in such a fashion, without any physical pressure involved, how can one prove it happened? The law wants evidence.
There are always debates as to whether laws regarding sexual assualt needs to be examined and reformed. In the middle-east, a rape is rewarded with a castration. No questions asked.
But if the laws are made in such a way that the victims account alone is necessary for putting the criminal behind bars, what guarantee is there that a judgement may not be wrong?
It is not unheard of for women and now men to exploit rape and use it as a means of personal vendetta. How can we ensure then, that cases like what I mentioned before do not happen?
This is a very real problem. None is safe from this. You can try to prevent it, and you should, but what if we are the next victims. The thought is chilling. I have no solution to this… do you?