A few months back, when there was an article on Times Of  India about whether men can be raped too, it sparked off a huge debate. Can they?

It did not seem possible to me. I justified my opinion to my male friends with the argument that men have superior physical strength, and in most cases they would be able to overpower the woman attacker.

And then my friend asked me to define what rape is. When I looked it up, this is what I found:

rape 1 (rp)


1. The crime of forcing another person to submit to sex acts, especially sexual intercourse.
2. The act of seizing and carrying off by force; abduction.
3. Abusive or improper treatment; violation: a rape of justice.
tr.v. raped, rap·ing, rapes  

1. To force (another person) to submit to sex acts, especially sexual intercourse; commit rape on.
2. To seize and carry off by force.
3. To plunder or pillage.

And then he pointed nowhere is the world ‘physical’ present in the definition of rape! This really frightened me. What if some man came to my house, threatened to kill my loved ones, if I did not submit to him?
What would one do in a situation like that? It affected me in such a profound way that I have never considered myself safe since then.
Even more disturbing is the fact that if rape is in fact committed in such a fashion, without any physical pressure involved, how can one prove it happened?  The law wants evidence.
There are always debates as to whether laws regarding sexual assualt needs to be examined and reformed. In the middle-east, a rape is rewarded with a castration. No questions asked.
But if the laws are made in such a way that the victims account alone is necessary for putting the criminal behind bars, what guarantee is there that a judgement may not be wrong?
It is not unheard of for women and now men to exploit rape and use it as a means of personal vendetta. How can we ensure then, that cases like what I mentioned before do not happen?
This is a very real problem. None is safe from this. You can try to prevent it, and you should, but what if we are the next victims. The thought is chilling. I have no solution to this… do you?

5 thoughts on “Violated

  1. I dont think we can ever have a solution for a sick problem like this. People who do violent criminal things like this are pyschologically sick and unfortunately one cannot prevent things like this from happening but we can fight them. we have to.

  2. the horrors of rape has never failed to get me. and that men can also be raped is shocking yet new to me. i remember a anurag kashyap interview in tehelka where he spoke of ‘sexual abuse’ while in scindia boys, gwalior. rape is the worst violations of an individual’s inherent dignity. your piece is brutal. please keep them coming!

  3. The act of rape is the basest of all human crimes. But what is more worrying is the utter uselessness of laws in this case; either way the victim is abused and more often the crime goes unproven and the criminal gets scot free! For a crime that’s beastly, the punishment too ought to be beastly; but a proper litiagation should be conducted before sentencing. However the current laws have huge holes which need to be redressed.

  4. I totally agree to chandnisehgal2.

    Rapists are sick ppl, there is nothing much we can do with them.. castration is a good idea but not the solution.

    After the dowry law that has been passed here, not many true cases have come up… There has been a lot of fake cases registered from wives just to harass their husband for some reason and the actually affected women are not complaining. So, Similarly any gal who wants to get back on a guy for any reason can file a attempt to rape. Imagine getting castrated for doing nothing…

    What I wud suggest is to avoid all situations of rape.. like being lonely or being with someone whom u dont trust or not know much.. etc.

    Being a Martial artist, i say that everyone must be trained at least to run.. Never panic, it will allow the victim to think and use ur brains to get out of the situation and u dont need physical strength all the time

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