The Ugly Truth

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A country on the threshold of development, ready to savour its tryst with greatness, and yet a country that still disrespects its mothers, sisters and daughters!

The Supreme Court of India, chose to use the word ‘keep’, ‘mistress’, ‘concubine’ etc to describe the female counterpart of a live-in relationship!

After years of hiding under the cutural taboos of the land of the Kamasutra, live-in relationships were finally accepted as a legal realtionship by the Indian judiciary. But the attitudes remain the same.

We are still attributing an inferior role to the woman in the relationship. If the woman were the earning member, and the man in the relationship did not bring home the dough, would the same judiciary, call him a keep?

Its not just about live-in relationships.

A couple of months back, there was a lot of resistance when a member of the Indian Army came out with a statement that women officers don’t deserve to be in combat, because of the possibility of pregnancy.

The argument of the armed services was that with the amount of money and time being spent on the training of an officer, it made more sense to train the men, who could obviously not take off on maternity leave.

This was completely absurd, given the fact that other industries too could apply the same logic. And is pregnancy an affliction exclusive to Indian women?

All over the world, more and more women were being absorbed into the armed services and in our country, they had decided that it was not worth the effort!

The mark of a growing developed society is one where there is at least a semblance of equality of gender. I am not suggesting that India is the only country with gender inequality.

But if we are aiming to become one of the more powerful nations, we must begin to respect our women more. And let me also point out that it is not men who are responsible for this attitude, women are equally to blame.

Also note that the sex ratio is heavily skewed in favour of the males. This is not an accident. And no one should be given the liberty of justifying murder with culture.

“The day will come when men will recognize woman as his peer, not only at the fireside, but in councils of the nation. Then, and not until then, will there be the perfect comradeship, the ideal union between the sexes that shall result in the highest development of the race.”

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5 thoughts on “The Ugly Truth

  1. Can you tell me how they have classified men, or the status of men in a live in relationship?
    It is apalling that a country like India that claims it is on its way to becoming a global super power can treat half it’s population in this disrespectful manner.

  2. India has just started to grapple with the sex issues once considered taboo. It being a democratic country needs time to ponder on the subject and get a consensus on the several issues pending with the legal system.

    Also the herculean task of public opinion remains to be tackled. Here is country with a large group of educated youth at logger heads with the orthodoxy and uneducated lot. Illiteracy both subtle and gross, has prevented and continues to prevent even a miniscule of change in the average mindset! In a country where rules are broken with such impunity even sensible law against dowry practice and child marriage is stonewalled.

    Democracy, being the number game, will not and need not tackle those issues that come on top of the youth agenda, afterall even among the youth there is a lethargy for a change.

    If and when the inertia due to a variety of reasons is abandoned, India will join the elite nations being less sensitive about the sex and gender issues.

  3. India has just started to grapple with the sex issues once considered taboo. It being a democratic country needs time to ponder on the subject and get a consensus on the several issues pending with the legal system.

    Also the herculean task of public opinion remains to be tackled. Here is country with a large group of educated youth at logger heads with the orthodoxy and uneducated lot. Illiteracy both subtle and gross, has prevented and continues to prevent even a miniscule of change in the average mindset! In a country where rules are broken with such impunity even sensible law against dowry practice and child marriage is stonewalled.

    Democracy, being the number game, will not and need not tackle those issues that come on top of the youth agenda, afterall even among the youth there is a lethargy for a change.

    If and when the inertia due to a variety of reasons is abandoned, India will join the elite nations being less sensitive about the sex issues and interfere positively in gender issues.

  4. well i understand wher you are coming from and the point is well justified to be raised. But if i recall it right on an NDTV debate a SC lawyer mentioned that men too are described in the same manner if they are the benefictories in a relationship…

  5. Indians in the cosmopolitans have just started to accept Love Marriages as opposed to arranged ones.. For them The Live -in relationship is still far from acceptance.
    With 1.1 Billion ppl, we still consider sex as a taboo and with a Women President we still consider women as a weaker sex.

    It will take generations to change this.

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